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You have an erect penis size of five or six inches,and you want to enlarge it to eight inches.You may be currently engaged in some penis enlargement activity,or you may be considering to do so.You also feel that your sexual performance could be improved.

In this book we shall assume that the source of your less than perfect sexual performance is not due to physical medical reasons such as a disease (Diabetes for example) or a side effect of medication you are taking (for example for blood pressure).In the case of diminished potency by medical reasons,you should see your doctor for the right medical treatment.

Therefore,your diminished potency is assumed here to stem from psychological or mental reasons.In this case,besides the placebo effect,there are no medications that will help you to improve your sexual performance,and you can only be helped by using methods and techniques that act upon your mind,to liberate it from the mental blocks that may be disturbing you.

Sexual performance is many times connected with the whole of your life,rather than the bed only.It may be connected with your human relationships,both with a woman or with other people such as co-workers,friends,neighbours,and so on.

But if you are looking for an obvious reason,that always affects penis enlargement seekers,that reason is there very desire to possess a bigger sexual organ.

You do not even need any other reason to diminish and affect potency than that one.The very fact that you want a bigger penis jeopardizes your ability to be your best in bed.

That doesn't mean that you shouldn't seek penis enlargement.That means that in order to seek a bigger penis,and be your best sexualy,you need the right state of mind,and the creation of that state of mind is far from being trivial or intuitive.On the contrary, for the vast majority of penis enlargement seekers is impossible to achieve that state of mind on their own,without detailed and well explained guidance.

That is the goal of the present book: to provide you with a strong set of tools to improve your sexual performance,while seeking to enlarge your penis.

The rest of the book will be addressed to those issues,and will explain step by step and in great detail how to do it by yourself,in the privacy of your own home.

Basic facts about human sexuality.

We all know that men come in different sizes,and so do women,therefore,in order to match properly from the sexual point of view,you do not need a huge penis,but the right sexual partner.You should not seek a larger penis in order to be sexually successful,but because of other reasons,which have little to do with sex.If all you want is a proper sexual relationship,choose wisely a partner,with characteristics that match those of yourself.That will do.You may have a less than average penis,and if you choose the right woman and function properly,you will not need those extra inches in order to enjoy sexual activity.

Most women,if asked,will tell you that the most important thing in a lover is not penis size but sexual performance.That is a fact,and you should not let your fears tell you otherwise.

So let us always remember that the reasons to want a bigger penis,must be different from the desire of a good sex life.

The valid reasons for a man to seek penile enlargement are generally related to their own self esteem,particularly regarding interactions with other males.

Once we made this point,the conclusion is the following.We shall use all the means at our disposal,such as a set of diverse techniques and methods described in this book,to separate those two issues,the sexual issue and the penis enlargement issue,and most important of all whenever engaged in sex,we shall learn to remember what really counts for sexual satisfaction,and we will by no means let negative,castrating thoughts disturb us while having sex.

Empowerment.

In order to achieve our goals in life we need to be in charge of our destiny.

In other words,we need the power to change what can and must be changed,to accept whatever cannot be changed,and the mind power to discern among both.

Most of whatever happens to us is a direct outcome of our thoughts and our inner world.The main difference between a "winner" and a "looser",is inside our minds.

Empowerment is the process by which we finally take charge of our inner world,our thoughs,and manage whatever is in our minds.Through empowerment we choose and pick whatever things we allow to affect our state of mind,and what are the things that we choose to ignore.

All this must be done based on the necessary wisdom to determine based on a reality check,what can be changed and what has to be accepted.

The fact is that most of the things that affect our state of mind are things that in fact can be changed,but we take them,as if they were a hit of destiny,which should be accepted and dealt with as is,at face value without discussion.

Empowerment will allow us to observe everything from a "powerful" point of view,that doesn't accept for granted everything,but analyses objectively every element and decides what to accept as a fact,and what to change.

We cannot reach that powerful position inmediately,because most of us have been brought up to accept things as facts,including those that can be changed by us to our advantage.We need to re-build our inner world using techniques given later on in this book,so that after the re-building process,we will eventually empower ourselves more and more,and change the way we treat ourselves.The empowerment process is one in which we learn to respect ourselves,and we stop imposing on our minds external imaginary boundaries that shouldn't be crossed.

Inside every person there is a powerful "me" waiting to be discovered,a natural winner,covered by many layers of fears,conditioned reflexes and

negative programming,that prevents most of them from ever discovering their own potential.

In order to increase our sexual potency,while seeking penis enlargement,we must first go through a process of empowerment,that will allow us to build up the tools required to achieve our goals.

We shall proceed now to present to you a set of techniques that will allow you to begin a process of empowerment towards achieving the goals of potency self development and functional penis enlargement while engaged in physical penis enlargement.

If you have our book "The penis enlargement method with weights",you can skip over the following chapters which are basically the same as those given in that book,and go directly to page 31.

Functional penis enlargement.

There are some physical diseases that have as a byproduct of them or of the medications used to treat them,an adverse effect on potency.People with those deseases(blood pressure,prostate problems, diabetes ,and others) should get medical advice to treat the impotency problem,and we will not relate to them in this book.

We shall deal with pure functional (may be called psychological) sexual disfunction.This translates in either a smaller erection or in premature ejaculation or both.

The human nature has a set of sexual instincts that may be neutralized by stress,conflict,fear.But there is a fact and it is that underneath this pile of negative influences those instincts are lying intact ,and waiting to be awakened.

In the following sections we shall treat at length the subject of functional penis enlargement and potency developement,giving different techniques to obtain good sexual functioning.

Self Hypnosis .

Self hypnosis or auto hypnosis,has been practiced for centuries by the believers of various religious cults.Indian ascetics who had practiced yoga and the medicine men of tribes who were able to anesthetize various parts of their body at will,which made it possible for them to dance barefooted on a bed of burning coal,walk on broken glass,or sleep on a mattress of nails,achieved those states of mind through self Hypnosis.

They were also able to inflict severe wounds on themselves,which they did not feel.They developed the means to be able to choose what to pay attention to and what to ignore,and they could manage to ignore pain that on an average person would have been excruciating.

In jungle tribes the monotonous and rhythmic beating of drums struck in the same cadence,plus the expectancy of the unknown,produced various forms of psychological conditions which are similar to hypnotic states.

It is self-hypnosis that explains the ability of Hindu priests and Moslem dervishes to endure excruciating pain.Their state of meditation is actually a state of self hypnosis.

The ability of certain people to wake up at certain exact time is a matter of training.This is self hypnosis,wether it is done consciously or it isn't.

Psychologists agree that all normal healthy people can be hypnotized.The question that varies from individual to individual is the timing.

Anybody can learn to hypnotize himself.By using hypnosis we can counteract against all the negative psychological influences that affect sexual function,and gain in erect penis size and sexual performance as a whole.

Self-hypnosis refers to a highly suggestible state of mind which a person produces consciously or subconsciously.The proper utilization of self hypnosis can be crucial in overcoming sexual disfunctions,and other disorders.

Thoughts are mental impulses which have definite effects either good or bad on the body or mind.We can see this in physical disorders like,ulcers or diareah,or mental disorders such us hypochondria were the sick person believes he is ill with a myriad of different horrible illnesses.

Those conditions are usually caused by worry,nervous tension,or other emotional problems.When someone suffers from indigestion,he could think he has heart desease,and may promptly get palpitations and breathlessness.

After a medical check up and the reassurance that he has no heart desease,the symptoms may inmediately disappear.

By using self hypnosys,proper suggestions can be self given to intensify the desirable mental impulses for the porpoise of overcoming various mental and physical disorders.

If you place your hand under the light of the sun,it will warm it up.If you place a lens over your hand at the right distance,it will produce a blister or burn you.

Self hypnosis acts just like that lens.If the mind is strongly stimulated it will act upon the body.Somebody may be very tired,fatigued,too drowsy to concentrate.Sudenly he sees that someone dear to him is in great danger,and he can save him,and immediately his mind is galvanized to action.The body as a result of that gets energized and the fatigue is gone.

The same way it may work for you.Mind over body,or should we say mind over penis?Everything starts and ends up there in your head and that's the place where the change has to take place.

Obviously you will discover that many things that have nothing to do with sex like your mortgage,your boss,the competition at work,the traffic in the street may manifest all together by diminishing the quality of your sexual functioning.

Similarly you will have to learn how to relax and neutralize all those elements that castrate you in some way or the other,in order to enlarge functionally your penis and increase your potency.

To fully understand self-hypnosis,we need a clear picture of the nature of conditioned reflexes.What are conditioned reflexes?A conditioned reflex,may be defined as a response to a specific stimulus,resulting from training or experience.

For example impotency(not due to physical disorders as we said before) or sexual dysfunction is a conditioned reflex learned by a series of increasingly disappointing sexual,social or personal experiences which unite with each other to reinforce the fear,tension,lack of contact with the instincts that manifests itself in sexual dysfunction.

A conditioned reflex,is established by the repetition of a given stimulus or procedure.This responses then become involuntary.

We could give many examples of conditioned reflexes,for example the increase on the flow of saliva when we smell some food that we like.

Pavlov,the well known psychologist experimented with dogs to study the nature of these conditioned responses.He found out that if a bell is rung at the time that food is given to a dog,and that if this is continued for an interval,the dog will salivate in response to the sound of the bell,even if no food was offered.An unconscious physiological reflex has thus been established.

A smart owner of a pastry shop increased his business considerably by utilizing the involuntary reflex principle.He kept the doors of his pastry shop open to allow the aroma of the freshly baked delicacies permeate the outside air.People walking by, smelled the aroma.This put into action the salivary glands which started to secrete saliva.This in turn caused the walkers by a strong desire to eat pastry.They walked in to the pastry shop and business boomed.

The training of animals for the circus is also based in the principle of involuntary reflex.Animals connect certain sounds for example with either food or pain and by inducing positive or negative connections with those sounds they can be trained to do funny things like dancing,walking in two feet or jumping through a burning ring of fire , as soon as they hear the sound.

This explains the seemingly magic ability of the trainer to force the animal to do things it usually would not do.Some trainers are cruel and use excruciating pain to induce behaviour,so this principle not always is used for good porpoises only.

This principle may apply to human relationships also.A woman can teach a man to be scared of having sex by using castrating techniques while in intimate contact.A repeated action of this sort will train the man to have less of an erection,or to ejaculate prematurely.So how to choose a sexual partner is part of preventing or overcoming sexual dysfunction.

Sometimes the castrating behavior is unconscious and the woman would be ready to learn how not to be castrating.In this case therapy for couples could be very useful,but remember,if she doesn't want to change her behavior or denies,the only way is to change the sexual partner.

Many functions of the body are involuntary,however they are not entirely separated from consciousness .This can be observed in the respiratory,digestive,and circulatory systems,also in the secretory functions of the glands.All those functions are regulated by the autonomic (involuntary) nervous system.The autonomic nervous system is primarily reflexive in action and is influenced through the central nervous system by the channels of suggestion and emotion.

Organs like the heart and the kidneys are also involuntary,however both are easily affected by emotional experiences.So is the sexual arousal process,lying between the voluntary and the involuntary,and at the mercy of human emotions.

We all have the instinct of arousal when we observe an attractive woman.What may happen though is that immediately after the arousal system is set into motion,conditioned reflexes are awaken which may absolutely neutralize the arousal and reverse it,creating sexual dysfunction.

In order to establish a conditioned reflex to our advantage,we can use self-hypnosis.We shall unleash the potential of suggestion to our benefit,to achieve functional penis enlargement and potency enhacement.We shall proceed now to the technique to achieve self hypnotic state.Later on we shall see how this can help to achieve the relaxation needed to be in contact with our own natural sexual instincts.Lets start by the self-hypnosis routine.

You should get into self hypnotic state by giving to yourself suggestions,either silently or aloud.Seat yourself in a comfortable chair or recline on a couch.

Choose a spot in the ceiling and continue to look at it.Then give to yourself the following hypnotic suggestions:

"Presently I shall notice a very pleasant feeling of heaviness coming over my entire body....Every muscle and nerve in my entire body is completely relaxed and at ease....My legs are getting very heavy.... My arms are getting very heavy...My entire body is very heavy and sleepy....My head an eyes feel very tired now,and I just want to close my eyes and fall fast asleep...My eyes are becoming very watery....My eyelids are becoming very heavy,and I just want to close my eyes and fall fast asleep...The moment that I close my eyes I shall be in deep,sound ,hypnotic sleep...I shall be in deep sound hypnotic sleep...I shall be able to give myself suggestions and I shall be able to wake up at will....When I complete the count of three,it will be utterly impossible for me to keep my eyes open and I shall close them and fall into a deep sound sleep....One ,two,theree...deep sleep,sound sleep,fast sleep....I am now in a deep hypnotic sleep and I can give myself post hypnotic suggestions.I have perfect control of myself,and can awake at will...Deep sleep...Sound sleep....."

The porpoise of learning self hypnosis is in our case to be able to give powerful post hypnotic suggestions which will enhance our potency and sexual functioning.For example,once you achieved a deep self hypnotic state you could make the following suggestions:" ... when I wake up I will be completely relaxed...I will like myself and my body very dearly...Every part of my body is beautiful....I want to make love to this woman that will soon come...I like her body very much...When I wake up I shall be completely relaxed and fresh and will be able to feel great sexual excitement......"

The principle with selecting post hypnotic suggestions is always being positive,for example you should not say " I will not have problems in bed..." because using the word problems has a negative influence in your state of mind so choose the wording accordingly.

The other principle is to experiment with the suggestions and by doing so to learn what suggestions work better for you.

Always use the words relaxation,peace of mind,love,I love myself,I accept myself,and so on.By creating a strong positive influence in our state of mind we out balance the "learned failure" syndrome that so frequently is the cause of sexual dysfunction.

We shall deal with the task of eliminating bad thoughts and influences in another section that we call "burning bad influence" later on.

In order to wake up from your hypnotic state after you made all the suggestions,you could simply suggest: "Now I will count to three and at the count of three I will wake up relaxed and calm...One...Two...Three...." and then you open your eyes,and wake up.

That is all about self hypnosis.The potential of self hypnosis to help you improve your functional penis size and its contribution to enhance your potency are only limited by your own imagination.Use it and make it help you to live a better life.

Burning negative images.

Self hypnosis is excellent to improve your well being,and relax,surrounding yourself with a positive atmosphere .Nevertheless there are some conditioned reflexes that developed during the process of sexual dysfunction that is necessary to eliminate in order to be able to enjoy from sex life.

There is a method that proved time and again to be able to eliminate the negative thoughts that release the negative conditioned reflexes.We call this method "Burning negative images" and we shall explain the rationale behind it,and then teach you how to use it to your advantage.

Every sexual dysfunction learned reflex is always triggered by a chain of negative thoughts that change our "mood" up to the point that we cannot function properly.Some of those thoughts are completely conscious ,other are subconscious.The first thing that we have to do is to identify the patterns of the negative thoughts.Once we identify the conscious ones,we start uncovering those that belong to the subconscious.

One thing common to those negative thoughts is that we can remember clearly when was the first time that we had them.Those occasions are always traumatic experinces,some of them sexual failures,but others may be castrating experiences of any kind,like for example at work,in the street,at the coffee shop.

For example we may have the following sexual though: may penis is not fit to sexual intercourse.We may recall clearly when was the first time we had this thought:while undressing to have sex with certain female,or may be while undressing in the locker room before swimming at the pool,while watching our body in the mirror.One thing that is common to the first time that every negative thought occurs to us is the clear picture that we keep of this first time.

Another negative thought may be for example "every body knows that I am worth nothing..." this kind of thought may create a mood that during a sexual encounter,prevents you from reaching sexual arousal therefore castrating you.This thought first occurred to you,not in bed or the locker room,but at the office,while your boss treated you rudely and with lack of any kind of respect in front of all your colleagues. Here you remember the occasion with all the details.You even remember what suit you were wearing,what time of the day it was,the reaction of people around you and everything else in vivid detail.

If you can identify the negative thoughts that trigger your sexual dysfunction,you will every time discover that each one of them has a vivid picture of the first time it happened.Moreover,when you enter the mood of failure,which doesn't have to be sexual failure and inferiority only,but can manifest itself as a failure in every aspect of the human and social activities,you may find yourself frequently daydreaming again and again those vivid terrible images that inflict on you so much pain,fear,distress,impotence and despair.

It should be obvious to you that some people manipulate others by inflicting on them experiences like those described previously,in order to take advantage of the weakness that they are supposed to expose.In other words,in the war for survival,those images are carefully used weapons to subdue the competition.This may be also said for relationships between men and women,giving to the expression "the war of the sexes" a tangible meaning.Castration of the male partner may be instrumental to some way of domination that certain females may seek.

Therefore if you do not want to subdue to those intentions,or to things that happen and remain in our memory written with fire,and weaken us so much,you must do something about it.

What can be done?Are we condemned to remember those horrifying images time and again for ever?If we could get rid of them,the negative thoughts that surround them will disappear and the negative conditioned reflexes would not be triggered by them,therefore we could recover our potency and normal sexual function.

The answer is yes,those images can be completely eliminated from our minds,and this can be done easily using the technique know as "burning the images".

The technique is very simple and can be done in any place at any time,although is more effective if you can use it in a quiet place,while relaxing and closing your eyes (for example in the bus,or in the train while seated).

The idea is to select one by one the negative thoughts that you want to get rid of,and identify the related images that generate them.You have to act against one image at a time.

You have to make an effort to see the image as vividly as possible,feeling all the pain and negative feelings that it awakens on you and while you see it with the eye of your mind,imagine that the image is a picture on a piece of paper,and you burn it.Yes,you see it burn from bottom to top completely till nothing but ash is left of it.Then you try to see the image again in the eye of your mind,as clearly as possible,and repeat the burning to ashes again and again.

After several times of burning the image,you will find it difficult to see it again,and that difficulty will increase till you are no longer able to see the image at all.Then you move on to a different image and repeat the exercise as explained.

You will find yourself energized after burning images that generated thoughts that kept busy your mind,castrated you and weakened you before.This will not only empower you sexually but in any sense.

This is the most powerful tool in your toolbox to recover or generate sexual potency,and functional penis enlargement.

In the following section we shall offer another means to improve your sexual performance:namely visualization.

Visualization.

This is a technique widely used to increase well-being,and even to fight desease.Because of the psychosomatic nature of the human body functionning,there are mutual influences between the mind and the body.

Even a disease considered to be completely physical by many like cancer,depends on the immune system,known to be affected by the workings of the mind.Therefore some doctors agree with alternative medicine practitioners that the immune system can be boosted by visualization,and then visualization can be combined with traditional medicine to fight certain types of cancer.

The connection of sexual behavior with the mind is know and recognized by all,therefore a technique like visualization is accepted as a means to improve sexual performance and to enhance potency.

How does visualization work?Very simple.The principle is "...if you can see yourself do it ,you can do it..."

To do visualization you should be in a private and quiet place,for example seating down in a couch.You should be very relaxed.One way to achieve relaxation is by using first self hypnosis.Once you are relaxed but awake (not under hypnotic sleep) you should close your eyes and start visualizing yourself behaving in the way that you want to behave and functioning the way you want to function.We are engaged in enhancing sexual performance therefore we shall concentrate in sexual visualization,but the technique may and will be used later on to affect other aspects of our life that are not only sex.

While you are very relaxed and with your eyes closed,you should start the visualization ,way before you go to bed.You should visualize your encounter with your partner in the street.Walking side by side along the street and talking calmly,comunicating,getting closer and closer ,understanding and respecting each other,trying to make each other comfortable and happy.Visualize the details,the smiles,the kindnes,the togetherness that evolves between both of you.You should continue to visualize the events and eventually you will visualize both of you alone,hugging and kissing,caressing.Try to visualize your closeness to each other developing gradually along all the preliminary stages,and your desire for each other as an outcome of that closeness.Try to feel the deep involvement with each other that leads both of you to the sexual act.While visualizing the act of having sex,try to feel the excitement and joy of a closeness that evolves naturally and gradually from the meeting of the minds to the meeting of the bodies.

While visualizing sexual performance do not concentrate in the sexual organs but in the whole of both bodies making love.Visualize deep pleasure and feel the joy of giving and receiving satisfaction,and of intimacy and potency.

You have to explore the different aspects of visualization and by experimentation,find what are the things that work better for you.You should visualize once a day,and a good practice is to do it before going to sleep.

Up to this point we discussed self hypnosis,burning the images and visualization.Those are techniques that are general in their nature,and may be applied to any kind of psychological problems,including sexual dysfunction.In the following two sections we shall teach the use of techniques that are specific to sexuality.

Slow masturbation.

Slow masturbation is a way to train yourself to be in contact with your sexual instincts.

Once you are experimenting sexual dysfunction,the very presence of a sexual partner becomes a source of stress,therefore we have to find a way to exercise the sexual process of arousal without that stress.One obvious way to do it is by self arousal.

In many societies self gratification by masturbation is considered negative,childish and even a sin.If you feel too uncomfortable with the idea of masturbating,this technique may not be for you.

To be honest,masturbation is an ideal tool to experiment with your sexuality and to overcome many of the sexual shortcomings that you may be experiencing.Try to accept this tool as part of your life,because it is perfectly normal to masturbate,and the fear or guilt that prevents you from doing it is in itself a castrating influence in your life.Try to overcome it and take advantage of masturbation as part of your sexuality.

Slow masturbation is a routine to exercise the process of sexual arousal and penis erection.By repeating the exercises that we shall describe soon,you will improve the quality of your erections and your ability not to ejaculate too soon.The quality of an erection is measured in terms of the size of the erection and its hardness,and is obviously subjective in nature.Your aim is to be your personal best,and not to compare yourself with other men.The very comparison may produce negative castrating effects.

In order to practice slow masturbation you should be in a private place,for example a bedroom.While lying in bed naked,you should reach relaxation by any means you find fit.(for example self hypnosis).Then you will start by caressing your whole body,starting by non erogenous areas,like your chest,your legs and your stomach.Concentrate in the pleasant feeling of the contact between your own hand and your body.Every here and there you may touch or caress you sexual parts,and then continue to caress the rest of your body.You should spend 15 minutes experimenting with your touch in your own body,and learning what feels best.This is the only way you have to learn about your pleasure spots,in order to teach your sexual partner where to caress you and how.

Now you start concentrating on your penis and your testicles,still caressing them.You can use your imagination to produce sexual fantasies that arouse you,or you can look at pictures in a magazine, or videos of naked women in order to get excited.Now your arousal is increasing.You may hold your penis in your hand and strike it as if you were milking a cow,very slowly while your imagination is busy with the attraction you fill for your fantasy.

You should keep striking slowly(that is the reason for the name of the technique:slow masturbation) and letting yourself go deep into your fantasy,till slightly before the "point of no return" but stop before ejaculation is unavoidable.If the first time you cannot hold it and ejaculate,enjoy it and do not feel guilty.You can always start again a while later,or the next day.

The frequency of slow masturbation is very personal.Here again exploration and practice will teach you how much when,how and for how long to do it,and when finally you find a sexual partner,how to combine sex with a partner with slow masturbation while alone.

If your sexual dysfunction disappears ,and you fill that you do not need slow masturbation any more,you may stop it.If later on you feel that it may improve your sexual life you can start it back again.

The idea is to eventually slowly masturbate for longer and longer periods of time without ejaculating,every time achieving a slightly better erection for a slightly longer time.

Once the quality and duration of your erections will be good enough,you will start building confidence on your sexual functioning.Look at your penis fully erected and hard,and keep this positive image in your memory.It will have a strong effect in the way you see yourself as a whole.Remember that for most women,is not the size but the exercise what really counts.

If you don't have sex for a long period of time,it may be a good idea to slowly masturbate once in a while,to keep in contact with your sexuality.

Now we shall proceed to the method used to improve sexual performance for couples.

Training for couples.

If you happen to have a sexual partner,the best thing to do in order to improve sexual functioning is to use the technique that will be explained in this section.

The main idea behind this method is to reinforce positive feedback regarding sexual performance.It requires that the sexual partners are both willing to engage in it.This means that it wouldn't be possible in casual sex,and a relationship between both partners is essential to apply the technique.

You should find a quiet place,ideally a bedroom.Before undressing,you should both rest in bed for a while and relax,any way you know or like.After ten minutes of relaxtion,you should start undressing each other very slowly,while kissing and caressing is allowed.Once you have undressed,you should take turns to give each other a slow and sensual massage.You may use oil if you prefer.The idea is to start massaging the whole body of the passive partner,and not particularly the erogenous zones exclusively.First the male should give a massage to the female.Kissing every part of the partner's body if so desired, is allowed.After having caressed the female for 10 minutes or so,you may concentrate in the sexual areas an you could stimulate with your hands your partner,trying not to produce an orgasm,but to achieve high sexual arousal.

Similarly the female should caress her partner,at the beginning the whole body,and later on concentrate in the sexual zones.Partners should tell each other what they like and how and where they like it.After 10 minutes,the female should concentrate in the sexual zones,in order to create arousal but not ejaculation.

At this stage the male should be lying on his back,and intercourse should take place with the female on top.The female should take care not to move too fast in order not to increase to much the sexual arousal of the male which could ejaculate too soon.If ejaculation happens too fast anyway,it should not be taken as something negative.Anyway a normal male should be able to have another erection and eventually intercourse should last long enough to increase the females pleasure and possibly bring her to orgasm.

If this doesn't happen,the male should offer to stimulate his partner orally or otherwise as desired by the female,in order to induce the orgasm.

Female orgasm is an issue that lies in the center of many sexual problems.The male feels that he must cause an orgasm to his partner while intercourse takes place.Many females fake an orgasm because of that and because they feel guilty that they are unable to come during intercourse.The reality is that a large percentage of women are unable to reach an orgasm while having intercourse,and this has nothing to do with the performance of the male partner.That is the way they are,and there is nothing wrong with it.

It should be important to sort out this issue,because a faked orgasm brings with it more negative elements into the couple's relationship than the problems it solves.

Other intercourse positions may be used at will,but if problems show up again,it is advised to return to the exercise previously described,culminating with intercourse with the woman on top.This position is advised to solve problems because the male is less active and that tends to delay ejaculation,and give some more time to achieve a fuller erection.

A word about relationships is here in order.

Sexual dysfunction doesn't happen in the vacuum.If the male experiencing the dysfunction has a relationship with one partner,it is more than conceivable that this dysfunction has connections with the relationship itself.Remember that we are not talking about problems related to a physical medical condition.

Even before you blame yourself and your penis for everything,it pays to seek help regarding the problems in the relationship.This help may be counseling or psychological treatment of the couple,and/or of the partners individually.

If worse comes to worse,you can always split,and may be get rid of your sexual dysfunction at once.But remember,if it always happens,no matter with whom,then is your responsibility to find out what to do with yourself,and help is at hand right here in this book.

How to energize yourself.

In the previous sections we learned several potency self development techniques,which as a by product generate energy.

Energy is vital for sexual performance,but not only for sexual performance.Every human activity besides sleeping,requires energy: work,play,sports,social activity,and everything else,can be done more successfully with a higher rather than a lower level of energy.

Therefore,we shall learn techniques that allow to increase your level of energy.Those techniques are directed towards that specific goal,and are borrowed from Hindu knowledge,particularly Yoga.

According to Hindu Knowledge and Yoga,there are in the human body,several centers of energy,called "Chacras".

Those centers of energy are located along the spinal cord,and the head,and help to energize different muscles and organs in the body.

The lowest chacra is located in the spinal chord,in the pubic area,and it energizes the sexual organs.The highest chacra is located on the tip of our head.

Energy flows constantly along the spinal chord and up to the tip of the head,from chacra to chacra.This energy that flows along the spinal chord,is called "Kundalini".The lowest chacra (the one in the pubic zone) is called root or base chacra.

We shall now proceed to describe two techniques aimed to increase your energy level.Later on we shall analyze the way in which energy has to do with your thoughts and your inner world,and therefore with your potency.

Awaking your Kundalini power.

The Kundalini energy is described as a snake sleeping at the bottom of your spinal chord (at the root chacra),waiting to be awakened.

When awakened,you will feel as if waves of warmth and energy,even flames,envolve your spinal chord from bottom to top,reaching the tip of your head.The flow of energy will "fill you up" with energy,that will then last for a long period of time.

You should exercise the awakening of Kundalini energy several times a week,even every day,as part of a well rounded empowerment routine,as will be discussed alter on in this book.

And now let us go to the exercise itself:

You should practice this exercise in a quiet place,for example your bedroom ,where you can have some privacy and silence.

First of all,you should be in a completely relaxed state.You can use self hypnosis,or any other means to achieve relaxation and clean your mind of thoughts.Be in relaxed state for around 10 minutes,and then,sit down in your bed (while your back is not against the wall) and cross your legs in the classical yoga posture called the lotus seat.

The lotus seat is just to sit down with crossed legs,with your back standing upright,and not touching the wall or anything else.

In that posture,and while you are completely relaxed and your mind is empty of thoughts,close your eyes,and visualize in the eye of your mind your base or root chacra,surrounded by energy flames.Then imagine that those flames flow upwards to the tip of your head.

Visualize the flames along your spinal chord for several minutes,trying to increase the flow of flames and energy traveling upwards though your spinal chord,up to the tip of your head.

At the beginning you may not feel much,but if you concentrate in the visualization,you will eventually feel a current of energy clearly flowing from your root chacra to the tip of your head.Concentrate in the feeling of flowing of energy.

Once you can clearly feel the energy,concentrate in the feeling for around ten minutes.After that, you should slowly open your eyes,and stay in the lotus seat posture for 3 to 4 more minutes.

After this exercise you will feel less tired and charged with energy and positive thoughts.

Remember that positive energy,like flames,flow from bottom to top,and not otherwise.Only ascending flames of energy will be to your advantage.Energy flow in the opposite direction (from top to bottom) may have an opposite detrimental effect over you so never visualize downward flow of energy.

You may use this exercise as a periodic recharging technique,without any specific reason,or you may use it to get ready for an event in which you want to be at your best,such as before sex,or even before some professional meeting where you want to be as sharp and awakened as you possibly can.This is a means to empowerment that should be always included in your empowerment routine.

One shortcoming of the Kundalini awakening method is that you need to be in a quiet place,with privacy and silence.There is an "emergency" recharging method that may be applied anywhere and a any time,even in the middle of a crowd.

This energy providing method is called the root chacra energizing,and will be explained if the next section.

The root chacra energizing technique.

The aim of this technique is to increase your energy level inmediately,anywhere you need it.This technique may be used in conjunction with voice empowerment and burning of the images to overcome moments of fear,panic,confusion and lack of vital energy whenever and wherever they may happen,without need of privacy and silence.

This technique is also borrowed from Yoga,and based in its definition of the energy bodily centers called chacras.Particularly the lowest chacra(that in the pubic area) called "root" or "base" chacra.

The technique is based in the visualization of the energy of the universe,and particularly the energy of the earth,flowing from the earth to our body,and concentrating in our root chacra.

The technique may be applied while standing,with the legs slightly separated from each other,or while sitting down in any chair,with hour legs separated from each other(they should not be crossed,because that will make more difficult the flow of energy from the earth to hour root chacra located at the base of our spinal chord).

As said,you may be sitting down or standing as described,then you have to visualize energy coming from the floor,entering your body,and concentrating at the base of your spinal chord.It may take several minutes to reach a level of intensity that may be clearly felt by you.You must keep visualizing till you start feeling that your whole level of energy is raising up.Then you should stay with this feeling of energy and empowerment for several minutes,and then the exercise is over.

This technique really works,and may help you to deal with a critical situation when you may be dominated by negative feelings of depression,fear,and negative thoughts,by providing you with the energetic means to empower yourself and generate a general feeling of security,positive thoughts and self esteem.

The very knowledge that you can deal with difficult situations and overcome negativity will give you a general feeling that you are "in charge" of your life,that you have the power to overcome any difficulty that may occur.This is one of the most important ingredients of your empowerment process.

Voices and voice dialog.

One of the most important ways to empowerment is related to our ability to detect our sources of strength and our weaknesses.If we can systematically do so,we can act upon both,in order to take advantage of our relative strengths and deal with our vulnerabilities.

Voice dialog is an approach to psychology that claims that our personalities are not monolictic,but complex and diverse.In fact it is claimed that the personality is a group of different elements,each one of which is a kind of sub-personality,called a "voice".

A voice is characterized by its energy,strength,mood,vulnerability,tone of voice,behaviour,etc,very much as we describe personalities of different people.

That means that we keep in ourselves the different "selves" we are along our life,which is rich with different moments of power or weakness,strength or vulnerability,love or hate,childhood or growth,male or female aspects of our personality.

It is by knowing our different voices,and taking charge of what voice takes center stage when,and how to relax and protect our weaker aspects(voices) that we can actually be masters of our own destiny.

For example we all have a voice which is the successful lover.By cultivating this voice and learning how to give to it room to take over during sexual activity,and by protecting and relaxing the voice of impotence in us,by teaching the strong voice how to be "father" of the weak and vulnerable voice,we shall increase our potency and enhance much our sexual performance.

The way to work with our voices to our own advantage in the sexual arena,at work,in our social life,etc,is divided in three steps:

1-Detection of the main voices that we have.

2-Empowerment by strengthening of the dominant "winner" voices.

3-Empowerment by recognition of our weak,vulnerable voices and nourishment of the "adoption" of strong voices as "parents" of those weaker ones.

The temptation of dealing only with the strong powerful voices, ignoring(escaping from) the weaker ones is great,but we must overcome it,because a weak voice unnatended,may jump out in the middle of anything important to us,for example while having sex,and ruin everything.

The conclusion is then to deal with both the strong and the weak in ourselves,to find the right durable balance of our whole personality.

A word about psychotherapy is in order here.The detection and analysis of our different voices by ourselves alone,is not easy,and if you can afford therapy,it will greatly increase the depth and completeness of your self knowledge.So we advice,whenever possible,to take psychotherapy.It is money well invested.From the other hand,if you cannot afford it,or you just do not want to see a therapist,we shall develope here a method to analyze yourself that will help you to do as much as possible on your own.

The way to work with voice dialog is to firstly detect the different voices that we have.As will be explained in following chapters,to detect it on your own,you may write down a "stream of consciousness" describing important parts of your life,containing both strong and weak parts of your personality.From the analysis of those stories you may detect the most relevant voices.

Another approach may be to concentrate in a given subject,for example your sex life,and write a "stream of consciousness" about that aspect of your life.Afterwards you may detect the voices that are relevant,both potent and castrated.

Once you detected the relevant voices,you can start to "chat" with them.The way to do it is by holding a conversation with a given voice.You start up by asking the voice to present itself.Then you can ask the voice different questions,and let the voice answer them.This dialog with the voice is called "voice dialog" and is the means to work with voices in order to achieve your primary goals:1) to nurture and let grow the strong voices and to allow them to take a bigger role in your life,particularly in your sex life,but it could be in any other aspect of your life such as your work life,your social life,your family life,etc.2)To protect your vulnerable weak voices,and to "adopt" them by the stronger ones so that in case one of them manifests itself,there is a powerful voice ready to take over (without scaring away the weak voice,but by protecting it very much the way a father takes care of a child) and comfort those fearful,aching sides of your own personality,so that they will not spoil you the occasion.

This is the last technique in our empowerment and potency self development tool box.In the following sections we shall use all the tools given up to this point,in order to help you take charge of your life and your destiny.

Empowerment and inner growth.

We started up this book saying that the reader is a penis enlargement seeker.With all the methods and techniques presented so far,the reader should be able to take off in a journey of inner growth that may or may not be paired by the physical growth of his penis.One thing is clear.By growing up mentally,you will better able to judge if what you need in life is a bigger penis,or a more mature self.If you still stick to your original desire of enlarging your penis,inner growth should give you the peace of mind and clarity of analysis to determine by what means to do it.You may decide that the method that you had been using till now is not efficient for your goal to be achieved in a reasonable period of time,and you may seek another method.

In this book we shall not take sides on the discussion of what works and what doesn't produce permanent penis enlargement.We shall only remind you that we published a book addressed to this issue called "The penis enlargement method with weights",and we strongly recommend you to have a look at it.It may help you to decide if you want to pay the price required to achieve permanent enlargement,and if so,it will teach you step by step the only way to do it,following the foot steps of those that made it.

Anyway,inner growth is necessary in order to succeed in anything important in life,and may be the difference between success or failure.

Our aim at this stage is to use all the tools presented so far,in order to achieve the desired empowerment,leading to a more potent self.

The steps required are described below:

1)Describe your life and personality.Write a detailed story of the different aspects,of your life.This should include strengths,weaknesses,fears,pains,etc.The description should be detailed and oriented towards detection of the followig:aspects to be strengthen,images to be burned,conditionated reflexes,strong voices to be nourished,weak voices to be protected,desired behaviours to be visualised,etc. In the description ,write about the different aspects of your life such as: your sex life,your educational life,your work life,your social life,etc.Write also about the different aspects of your personality and things about yourself that you consider important,both positive or negative,strong or weak,good or bad.Anything that you may consider important or relevant should be described in detail.

2)Analysis of the description made in (1),and preparation of the following lists:a)A list of goals to be achived,b)A list of necessary post hypnotic suggestions c)a list of negative images to be burned d)a list of the strong powerful voices to be developed e) a list of the weak voices to be protected f) a list of things as they "should be" for visualization .

3)Elaborate a plan of action,including a daily routine using all the techniques given here.Include the lists prepared in (2).This should include how many times per week to use self hypnosis ,slow masturbation ,training for couples, energizing , visualization ,burning of negative images and voice dialog.Include also goals for each of them using the lists prepared in (2).

4)Prepare a way to monitor improvement and goals achievement and re-creation and updating of the lists in (2) according with evolving needs and further analysis.

5)Start using all the techniques according with the plan in (3) and monitor with ways devised in (4).

Those are the highlights of the empowerment method suggested in this book.The following sections will illustrate how to apply this approach.

John Smith,a case study in empowerment.

We shall proceed now to present as an application of the empowerment process described in the previous section,the story of "John Smith".

The empowerment process will be illustrated in detail,and explanations will be given where necessary,in order to facilitate understanding of the process.

The idea is to enable the reader to apply the empowerment process to his own situation,following the example given here.Needless to say,this case study is only an example of the empowerment process and techniques,and by no means is supposed to cover all possible characteristics and details of your own story.The example is here to illustrate the method,but you will have to provide your own content and your process will be as good and rich in details as your ability to provide all relevant data.

So,let us get started.

Description of John Smith life and personality.

I am 35 years old,married plus one five year old daughter.I am a computer programmer,and I work in downtown Boston,in the computer center of the municipality of Boston.

I am driven to be number one in everything I do.At work,in bed,socially,etc.Nevertheless sometimes I feel that I have some weaknesses that prevent me from winning always.I am intelligent and creative but I am vulnerable to criticism and external influence.So much so that in the presence of other people,my abilities may decrease or even disappear.

When on my own,I am the greatest and there is no task or challenge too big for me.From the other hand,when confronted with a forum of colleagues ,I may become shy,or not convincing.

This doesnt always happen.Sometimes I have a lot of charisma and power and then I am convincing and I can dominate any professional discussion,and make my approach to be the one accepted by everybody,but there are other times when I feel small and vulnerable and anybody can impose his ideas upon me,standing there as if I where the most insignificant of men on hearth.

In my social life I also have a strong and a weak "mode" of behaviour.I can be charming and convincing,interesting and attractive to women,or in other occasions I can be boring,timid,plagued with fears and insignificant.

My sexual life used to be excelent.I used to be very active sexually before I got married.Women used to like me very much and went to bed with me willingly.

Once in bed I used to perform great.I used to be able to make love for the whole weekend numerous times.I could enjoy,and so did my sexual partners.Many women used to be very fond of my penis,which they used to call by nicknames,and suck longly and repeatedly.

Then something happen to me once I was having sex with a woman.I was trying to introduce my penis in her ass.My penis was hard like a rock.The ass was very tight.I applied a lot of pressure to penetrate,and suddenly I felt an acute pain in my sexual organ.

Looking at my penis afterward I saw an internal emorrage and discovered that an artery in my penis had burst.

Days later,I discovered that if I had an erection,I felt excruciating pain.Slowly I learned the pavlovian way not to have erections,if I didn't want to suffer pain.

I went to a doctor and he told me that there was nothing to be done,and that with time I will heal.But what happen in reality is that since then I had difficulty having erections,and when I did,my erection was bent to the right,and made intercourse difficult.

I started being afraid of sexual failure,and suddenly felt inadequate with women in social settings,becase I feared to be involved in sex.

Since then I started loosing my self confidence at work too.In fact sometimes I was insecure,but other I could "forget" about my sexual problem,and felt secure.

Then I met my wife and my sexual behavior was herratic.Sometimes I would have a full erection and perform as in old times,but most of the time I will be able to obtain partial erections only.

I lost appetite for sex,and I developed with my girlfriend then (wife now) a relationship without sex almost.I wasn't completely happy with the situation,but I felt that I was better of that way than on my own,and I got married.

Sex with my wife is extremely rare and always revolting.Sometimes I mind about it,and sometimes I succeed to forget about it and act as if everything is as it was in old times.

Lately I discovered that using masturbation I was able to have full erections for a long time,which were much bigger than those I had with my wife in the rare occasions that we have sex,and hard like a rock.This gave me more self confidence,but started jeopardizing my relationship with my wife,which was based on sexlessness.

Then I discovered that I wanted to have a bigger penis,and started searching for a way to increase my penis size permanently.

At work,I started gaining more self confidence,meaning that I would be my "strong" self more frequently than my "weak" one.

This is more or less the story of my life and personality.

John Smith case study.Exploration with voice dialog.

This is the analysis that has to be carried out before we start making the lists given in step (2) of the empowerment process.

We shall ,first of all identify some voices that expressed themselves in the John Smith story:

1)The successful lover.

2)The socially dominant charismatic male .

3)The intelligent convincing computer programmer.

4)The castrated impotent lover.

5)The shy,embarrased,socially insignificant male.

6)The poor thinker ,unconvincing professional.

We can divide those voices,roughly in two groups: the strong voices(1,2 and 3),and the weak voices (4,5 and 6).

We will proceed now to "talk" to those voices in order to better understand their different aspects,and how they can be encouraged and empowered(the strong voices) or fathered and protected (the weak voices).

Our aim is to allow the strong voices to grow and take over more responsibility over our lifes,while dealing with the weak voices in such a manner that they are not ignored and rejected,but they are adopted by the stronger voices,in a process of acceptance of the weaker aspects of our personalities.

The process of accepting our weaker sides,is crucial for true empowerment,because rejection and escape from them will create a situation in which those weaker voices will manifest themselves suddenly in the middle of our everyday life,completely out of control ,and really "take over" without warning.

We will lead ourselves to a situation in which whenever a weak voice starts to manifest itself and we feel the early signals of that happenning,inmediately we shall find resources(strong voices) that will protect the weak sides of our personality and will prevent them to take over completely.This is done in such a manner that accepts the weakness,but deals with it from a position of strength and power,without rejecting it and scaring it away,but much the same way by which a father or a mother embrace their little child to protect him and relive his fear,sadness or pain.

Having stated our ultimate goals,we shall proceed now to analyze the voices detected using a technique called "voice dialog".Let us start by the strong voices.

Analyzing the strong voices with voice dialog.

In order to use the technique called voice dialog,we shall first of all detect a voice that everybody has ,which will be the voice asking the questions and using judgment to analyze the different other voices.This voice is called "the observer".This is a voice that will be conducting the voice dialog with all 6 other voices.

We shall identify this voice by the letter O (from observer),and we shall identify the voice being analyzed by its specific name.

Let us start with voice number (1),the successful lover,which for short will be referred to as "lover"

Analyzing the "Lover" voice.

O-Who are you lover,and when did you appear first?

Lover-I am the sexual male,the potent,willing and able lover.I can give sexual pleasure and enjoy it miself.I love my body and my personality.I do not compare myself with others.I am convinced that I am a great lover,that my body,including my genitals,is beautiful and desirable.I am proud of myself.

I first appeared at the age of 14.I was playing with my genitals and suddenly I discovered how to masturbate.Then I already knew that I could give and receive great sexual pleasure.I started fantasizing about going to bed with a girl my age.

O-When did you manifest yourself again?

At the age of 18.I met this girl "Mary",and I invited her to go to the movies with me.During the movies I kissed her and caressed her body.We got really eroused.After that we came to my home (my parents were out,so we had privacy in my bedroom).There we undressed each other and we made love.It was great.I had multiple erections and we kept making love for hours.We had no tabus.We caressed and kissed each other's body without any kind of limits,and we enjoyed each others body very much.

I manifested my self almost every time that John was with a female,till the incident with the penis injury.Since then,only seldom I manifest myself.But in those occasions I am always my old self:potent,willing and able.Only lately,while John started exploring masturbation again,I started to manifest myself.In John's sexual encounters with his wife,I manifest myself only sometimes,very seldom.

O-What are your closest friends among the other voices?

Lover-All the so called "strong" voices,such as the dominant social male and the intelligent computer programmer.We strengthen each other.I am proud of them and they are,I'm sure,very proud of me too.

This is all for the lover voice.Let us now analyze the next strong voice.

Analyzing the socially dominant male voice.

O-who are you dominant and when did you first appear in John's life?

Dominant-I am the social animal.The party center.The one that nobody can beat in anything(almost).Number one in the scene.I always dance with the most beautiful girls in the party.I am the better sports man.The physically strong one.The athlete ,the swimmer,the weight lifter,the football player.

I appeared first when I was a small child.I was the first child in the family and everybody: parents,grandparents,aunts,and uncles treated me as if I where a king.Iwas cute,intelligent,loved by everyone.

O-When else did you manifest?

Later on I appeared in after school hours,in all social situations.I was among the smart,atractive and interesting.I did not compare myself with the others,although I always assumed that I was the best in any sense that really counts.

I am narcisist,in love with myself,and believed I could beat anybody in anything that is important.

After John's incident with his penis injury,I started manifesting less than before,although sometimes I still used to appear and take over(very seldom).

This may be because a voice that is very attached to me,the lover,took certain distance and stopped almost completely to manifest itself in sexual situations,therefore weakening me too.

Only lately I started again to appear in a higher frequency although not in all social situations.This may be caused by the fact that the lover also started to appear more frequently in John's life.

O-How do you relate to the weaker voices.

Dominant-I consider them as small children,scared and sad ,in need of protection.I also believe I could protect them,as a father protects his children.In other words,I believe I could adopt them,so that the stop shaking,crying and aching.

This is all for the dominant,now we proceed to analyze the third and last strong voice,the intelligent professional.

Analyzing the intelligent professional voice.

O-Who are you and where did you appear first?

Professional-I am the convincing ,intelligent,excelent thinker.I can see the big picture and discern clearly between the important and the seccondary.I can analyze brilliantly ,and I always draw the right conclusions.I am the best programmer ,able to work as much as three people together.I can get the things done.

I first appeared in John's life in the early primary school days,when I used to get higher marks than most other children.

I have no doubts about my ability to think and to work.I know that I am among the best and the fastest.In a team I stand out as a leader.

Till john had this injury in the penis,I used to be the only voice that always took over in the professional scene.Then,I still kept appearing but not always,and even seldom.Lately I started appearing more often than before.

O-What are your favorite other voices?

Professional-I like the other strong voices,namely the lover and the dominant.We are interrelated and we draw our power from each other.I like to think about them and draw self confidence from their vision.My confidence with work matters is based on the narcissism provided by the lover and present in the dominant.

There are many elements,such as the narcissism,that belong to all three of us,and where the boundaries between us become blurred.

O-how do you relate to the weak voices?

I think they can be helped to feel more secure and protected,and by doing so they may not have to manifest themselves by completely taking over and weakening John's act totally.

I believe that I can play an important role in taking care of the weak voices,so that they can integrate with me in a more armonic way without tears,fear and pain.

Now we shall analyze the weak voices.

Analyzing the weak voices with voice dialog.

While analyzing the strong voices we dealt with the strong content of those voices.This content could later be used when composing the post hypnotic suggestions to be given in our daily self hypnosis sessions,so that we can strengthen those voices.In other words,our analysis was oriented towards positive values to be enhanced.

Here,while analyzing the weak voices,we will be dealing with fear,distress and pain,which we will be trying to alleviate,heal,and in some cases eliminate,for example using the technique previously explained called "burning the images".

Although we shall be trying to get rid of the symptoms that those voices bring with them,we shall not reject the weak voices themselves,becouse voices never desappear.We will rather lovingly embrace them by the strong voices,so that they will be no longer be "left alone" to deal with reality.

Any attempt to reject the weak voices is bound to bounce back and burst against our faces in a crissis,that can only be prevented by accepting and healing rather than just rejecting.

Let us start to analyze.

Analyzing the castrated lover.

O-who are you and when did you first appear?

Castrated-I appeared in the first sexual encounter that John had after suffering his penis injury.

I am small,inadequate,I can only reach a partial erection and my penis,under those circumstances is bent.I am a sexual failure.

I am afraid of women.I cannot perform sexually right.

I vividly remember the first time that I appeared.Because of the excruciating pain felt while having an erection,I suffered a conditioned reflex ,which teaches me to have only partial erections in order not to suffer pain.So the first time I tried to make love,I got a partial bent erection,which was inadequate and I failed.

I remember vividly the image of myself having a full erection and the terrible pain produced by it.I also remember the first time that I did not perform properly in bed due to that conditioned reflex.

If I could get rid of those two images,I would heal may big pain and fear of failure,and possibly grow up.

O-what cause you fear,pain,distress?

As I said I cannot perform adequately in bed.When I remember how it used to be before,I felt a great pain because of the lost potency.

I fear women because I cannot function sexually.I am afraid to go to bed with women.That fear of women generates fear of life itself.Fear not to be big enough,clever enough,smart enough,fear that someone will laugh at me because of my lack of sexual performance.Here I feel very close to the other weak voices,which might have been generated by my deep fear of sexual failure.

This is all we will learn about the castrated voice.Let us go ahead with the next weak voice.

Analyzing the socially insignificant male.

O-Who are you and when did you first appear?

Insignificant-I am the voice that is scared to death of almost anything.I fear women because they may want sex.I fear men because very probably they perform better in bed than myself,or they may have a bigger erection.I am upset minded and confused and do not understand jokes.

I cannot hear songs of love because they make me depressed.I have a very low self esteem.I am worthless in any sense: as a sexual object,as a social entity,as a person,etc.

I am a fool.Everybody else is more than me in any sense.I am nobody at all.

I first appeared in a party after my first sexual failure that happened after John had the injury in his penis.

In that party,I suddenly felt as if my whole world collapsed at once.I couldn't find an ounce of strength to keep going.I wanted to run away from the party and be alone.

O-Could anybody help you to suffer less,to heal your depression,to increase your self esteem?

I think I could heal and grow up,if one of the strong voices takes care of me and shows me that John is not an impotent.That John is not a useless fool.

For example if the lover could make me believe that he can adopt me and take care of my fears and pain,I probably could feel safe and stop shaking and crying.

Also if the dominant could convince me that John is smart and intelligent and interesting,and not useless,I could improve my self esteem and grow up.

O-What are the negative images that you remember of your first appearence?

I remember vividly the pain I felt in that party when looking at a girl that wanted to dance with me.I remember the depression taking over me,and all those negative thoughts running in my mind.If I could eliminate those images...

This is all the analysis for the castrated voiceLet us go ahead with the next weak voice analysis.

Analyzing the poor thinker.

O-Who are you and when did you first appear?

Poor thinker-I am inadequate.I am busy with depression and fear,and my mind is not able to discern clearly between fact and fiction,important and seccondary,right or wrong.

I say non senses sometimes,that is why I prefer to shut up.I am not able to maintain an intelligent conversation.I am professionally unconvincing.Anybody can think better than me.I have nothing important or new to say,Never.

I must be told what to do,that is I must be lead.I cannot take responsibility.

I first appeared after John had this injury in his penis,and after the first party thereafter.

O-Do you have any images that disturb you and generate in you fear,distress and pain?

I vividly remember that time in which the boss,in front of all the co-workers,treated me as if I where an Idiot.With complete lack of respect and minimal consideration.I remember what I was wearing that morning.I remember everybody else's reaction of scorn and laughter.It hurts me in my heart.

I wish I could erase those images from my memory,and eliminate with them,the pain and sorrow involved in that incident.

O-Are there any strong voices that could help you to overcome all your simptoms,and help you develop and grow?

Indeed,all three strong voices could help me to heal and grow up.For example if the lover could show me that John is not an impotent,the dominant could show me that John is a number one,and the professional could convince me that John is a leader,my pain ,depression and fear would eventually disappear.

Here we finish the analysis of the voices using voice dialog.The following sections will use this material as a basis to prepare the lists used in the daily routines of empowerment.

The analysis process illustrated here has an important self-knowledge effect upon you that will help much the process of empowerment.Usually during the process of analysis by voice dialog,aditional voices appear that should be also analysed.The process may the reiterate,and should be considered complete when no further voices are left without analysis.

Preparation of the lists for empowerment.

This is related to step (2) in the empowerment process described in page 42.We shall prepare now the following lists:

a)A list of goals to be achieved.

b)A list of necessary post hypnotic suggestions.

c)A list of negative images to be burned.

d)A list of strong powerful voices to be developed.

e)A list of weak voices to be protected.

f)A list of things that "should happen" for visualization.

Let us remember again that the lists that we will make here relate to our case study of John Smith,and are only an example to illustrate practically the empowerment process.When doing the list for your own case,you should include many things not included in this example,and things given here are not necessarily useful for your own case.

A list of goals to be achieved.

At this stage we must stop an learn all the material that we gathered about John Smith.We must see the "big picture" here when stating the goals for the whole empowerment process,because the outcomes of the process can never be better than the goals we set to be achieved.So go back and read again pages 45 to 65 one more time.

The main objective of empowerment is to enable John Smith to proceed to seek penis enlargement for as long as he needs to,while developing his sexual performance to his own maximal potential,and while doing so allow John to become a successful lover, a strong personality socially,and a successful computer programmer.

All that is left to do now is to translate this main objective in more detailed instrumental goals.

1)Improve John's ability to judge what is the right technique of penis enlargement to achieve a certain quantitative goal,and to set a proper goal.

2)To allow John to seek a bigger penis,but at the same time to be satisfayed with his present penis size,in order not to feel sexually inadequate.This is done by accepting the real life fact that for sexual life penis size is unmaterial,and performance is all that counts,and that the desire for a bigger penis is based on a self esteem need that has nothing to do with sex,but with male to male social interaction.

3)to strengthen John strong voices.

4)To heal and allow growth of the weak voices.

5)To increase John's level of energy by all means.

6)To increase Johns social and professional performance.

7)To improve John's sex life.

8)To increase John's ability to accept what cannot be changed,change what can and should be modified,and to discern between both.

The order of those goals has nothing to do with their importance.

Let us proceed to the next list.

A list of necessary post hypnotic suggestions.

Here we construct the list of suggestions to be used every time a self hypnosis session is conducted.We shall extract the suggestions from the material previously analyzed,and the goals set.

We must use all positive affirmations with only positive connotations.For example we cannot use an affirmation such as "I shall overcome impotence..".The same concept can be conveyed using instead : "I shall increase my potency and improve my sexual performance...".This principle should never be forgotten,because the whole effect of post hypnotic suggestion may otherwise be spoiled.

Let us proceed to the suggestions:

When I open my eyes after this session of self hypnosis I will remember and follow this suggestions:

1)I am a relaxed,energetic,secure,lover.My body is beautiful in every detail.My penis is beautiful and able to give pleasure to my sexual partner.I desire profoundly my sexual partner.I like her body.I want to have sex with her.When having sex I will fill complete union of body and soul with her.I will have a very strong erection.A very hard one.I will maintain intercourse for a long time.I will be in contact with my sexual instincts because I am my sexual instincts.I will be relaxed,energetic and able to fill and enjoy sex and follow my instincts.

2)I am charismatic,intelligent,charming and I am able to use all my potential to be socially successful and feel very comfortable in front of people.I like people and people like me.I get along fine with people.I am an interesting partner for a conversation or any other social activity.I like myself as I am and so does everybody else.I am lovable and likable by everybody,men and women.People are interested in what I have to say,and I like to talk in front of people,few or many.I accept myself and love myself exactly as I am.

3)I am intelligent.I am able to discern between good and bad,important or superficial,I can see the big picture.I can lead my co-workers.I can see as good or better than anybody else what are things about at work.I am an excellent computer programmer,able and willing to get any task done fast and well.I am a winner.I will realize my full potential at work,which is great.

4)I will always remember that penis size may count only for power relationships between men.What counts in bed with the right partner is performance and relaxation.

5)I will judge with common sense what penis enlargement method to use and what penis size goal to pursue .I will reconsider my previous decision from time to time,based in the progress made during that period.

6)I will respect and love myself always,and I will always decide what to do with myself so that I achieve maximal happines,health and well being.

Here we end our illustration of the post hypnotic suggestions that John Smith will use at every self hypnotic session.

Now we proceed to the list of negative images to be burned.

A list of negative images to be burned.

Here we bring a list of images to be burned.Unlike the post hypnotic suggestions,the burning of images doesn't have to be repeated every day,but till we cannot see the image anymore.

As time goes by,new negative images may emerge,and then we burned them as necessary.

The list for John Smith follows:

1)John must burn the image of his penis injury.That day when making love to a woman,as described before.He must envision the image of the moment in which the injury took place,and burn it in the eye of his mind as if it where a poster going up in flames,and repeat the exercise till he is unable to see the image any more.

2)John must burn the image of the painful erections thereafter.He must erase from his memory till the last trace of the image of himself aching badly because of the erection of his injured penis.

3)John must try to search for further images related to the induced reflex of his sexual dysfunction due to the injury and following post injury pain while getting erections.

4)John must burn the image of all his dysfunctional sexual encounters after the injury.All those images must be removed completely from his memory,till there is no trace left.

5)John must burn the images related with his social dysfunction as an outcome of his injury.For example the first party that he attended,in which he was terrified of women because they might try to take him to bed.

6)John must burn the images related to his negative experiences at work.For example The experience of the day in which his boss treated him badly in front of all of his coworkers,as described in the voice dialog analysis of the "poor thinker" voice.

7)John must also burn the images of himself ,filling small and unable to give pleasure to women.He must see himself fearing that size has to do with the ability to enjoy sex.He must remove till the last trace of those images based on an irrational fear.

This is the initial list of images to be burned in our illustration.We shall proceed now to the following list,which is the list of powerful voices to be encouraged.

A list of strong powerful voices to be developed.

Here we shall give the three voices that we analyzed extensively before.

How can we empower ourselves with voice dialog?

By detecting the strong capable voices we already have and work periodically with them,by conducting dialogs with them,and suggesting to them to take over different aspects of our life.

That is exactly what John has to do with the following voices:

1)The successful lover.

2)The dominant charismatic male.

3)The intelligent computer programmer.

The way to conduct voice dialog has been illustrated while conducting the voice dialog analysis of the different voices.Here is the place to point out that if you can get someone to talk to your voices in order to have a two person dialog instead of you talking to yourself,the experience may prove to add a lot of insight to you,but we must warn you that you must choose someone that you know real well and is interested in your well being,because damage may be caused by badly intentioned voice dialog.

Here is the place to repeat that if you can afford and want you could gain much insight from psychotherapy.

A list of the weak voices to be protected.

The explanations given in the previous section regarding voice dialog are true here too.

When we talk about "growth" of a weak voice,we do not mean that this voice should become more important or active in your life.On the contrary,while growing up,the weak voices integrate into the strong voices and stop being weak.

By growth we mean transfiguration and empowerment of those voices that today are weak.

The list of weak voices are the following:

4)The castrated impotent lover.

5)The shy,embarrased,socially insignificant male.

6)The poor thinker ,unconvincing professional

Many other voices could be found,but too many voices would confuse you and probably decrease the effect desired.You have to find the most important voices,those that are critical to define your personality.

We are done with the voices.Now we shall proceed to select subjects to be used in visualization.

A list of subjects to visualize.

In fact we shall visualize situations that will allow us to achieve the goals set on page 66-67.May very well be that more than one visualization is necessary for each goal,and may also be the case that there is no need to visualize certain goal.

Later on when elaborating a plan of empowerment action,we shall describe the place and time of visualization within the framework of that plan.

Let us begin the situations to visualize:

1)John must visualize himself at the end of the process of empowerment.Relaxed,happy,full of common sense and the ability to judge wisely about his matters.He must visualize himself as he would like to be at the end of the process: for example it may be happily married,with children,a good job,a new car,a pretty house,etc...

2)John must visualize himself with his penis the size it is now,having excellent sex with a woman.He must visualize the woman sucking on his penis with great pleasure.He must feel clearly able to receive and give great sexual pleasure with his present size penis.

3)John must visualize himself being his dominant charismatic sociable male.He must visualize his every fantasy as a social being.Triumph.

4)John must also visualize himself as the intelligent computer programmer at his best.He must envision himself making it as a project leader,directing other people,winning at work as seen in his most desired fantasies.He must visualize other people's respect and admiration for him,as he succeeds to lead his team to completion of the project successfully.

Later on we shall determine how and when the visualizations should take place.For now let us say that John doesn't have to do all for visualizations every time.He might rotate between them daily,for example.

This is all regarding visualization.We shall proceed to illustrate how a plan for the empowerment process can be put together.In fact we are ready for it right now.

Empowerment plan of action.

We have all the building blocks for empowerment set up.Now we have to organize a process that includes a plan of periodic activities,in order to allow John Smith's empowerment,in order for him to achieve his goals.

Although we are talking about a routine for John Smith,here we are also talking about everybody else too.That means that the plan presented here will be good for you too,if you develop all the necessary lists as we did before for John Smith.Therefore we will talk about you from now on,and not about John Smith.

We will divide the different activities in the plan,according to the frequency at which they will take place.

1)Daily activities.

2)Activities carried out twice a week.

3)weekly activities.

4)Activities carried out when needed.

We shall now proceed to describe the daily activities.

Daily activities.

The daily routine is very important because it symbolizes the desire to act for self change and empowerment.

What we really want is to change our values and perceptions of reality,and to gain energy and psychological endurance,so that we can have a better life,more under our own control.All this will increase our potency in every sense of the word.

We shall start our day waking up one hour before usual,and use this full hour for the empowerment plan.

The first activity after waking up and washing our faces with water,is the Kundalini energizing exercise described before.

The next activity in the morning should be self hypnosis.We should use all the suggestions given in the list prepared before.

The lists prepared before for each activity,are only the starting lists.We shall develop below a monitoring system to detect necessary changes in those lists,according with the evolving needs.

Activities carried out twice a week.

Those activities may be performed before going to sleep,at night.

It is strongly advised that you should relax for ten minutes before the activities take place.You can do that by laying in your bed,with closed eyes and just try to relax and let go for those ten minutes.

Those are the activities that should take place twice a week:

The first activity is visualization.You should choose one of the visualizations in your list.For example in the list that we prepared for J.Smith,there were four different ones.You have to do one of them at a time,and rotate them so that on the average,they are all done at the same frequency.The duration of the visualization may vary according to many factors.We discussed the details before when describing the visualization technique.

The second activity carried out twice a week is slow masturbation.Because this activity may be needed at different frequencies by different people,you do not have to do it twice a week,and this is only a sugestion.You may decide according to your needs and preferences,the frequency of slow masturbation of your choice.

Weekly activities.

Those activities have to be carried out once a week,not necessarily the same day or at the same time.

The first activity is training for couples (if relevant).This activity is in fact a sexual encounter,therefore requires coordination between two people,and time.Do not carry this activity out under time pressure.Read the way to do it in the relevant section of this book.

The next activity is burning of negative images,according to the list previously prepared,and the list that you will put together in the future as they are needed.It may very well be that some weeks you will not have any images to burn,so this activity will be carried out weekly for as long as needed,and then when required.

The last weekly activity is voice dialog,on your own,or with a partner.See the description of voice dialog given before,for details and explanations.

Activities carried out when required.

There are two activities that may be carried out immediately as required by the changing circumstances.

Those two activities are burning of the images and energizing of the root chacra.They are in a way emergency resorts to increase the level of energy,and to eliminate bad images on real time,for example in a social situation,with people all around,and without need to be alone,or to have silence.

Let us say that you feel that your level of energy is going down,and that weak voices and energies are overtaking you,and you are in front of people,for example in a meeting,at work.

You need an energy boost.You can energize yourself using the technique called energizing of the root chacra,previously described.

If you had a very disturbing experience right now,and you need to get rid of its depressing effects upon you right now and here,you can use the technique "burning negative images" previously described,in order to eliminate the effect of the experience, immediately.

Monitoring improvement and empowerment goals achievement.

Obviously, with time,the conditions change.New voices that are important to you may appear.Images to burn may be created or discovered,something to visualize may be found to be convenient.Post hypnotic suggestions that may help,may be found and so on.

That basically means that the lists as illustrated for John Smith,are not static,but they rather undergo continuous change.

We also want to evaluate the effectiveness of the lists,and eliminate elements that show not to be of any use anymore.

The process of continuous evaluation and revision of the lists,is called here "monitoring" of the empowerment process.

When should you spend some time on monitoring?

In fact every day you must think about all the elements in your empowerment process and monitor progress achieved by them.

You may find it convenient to introduce changes that you worked out the previous week,once a week,after your weekly session of voice dialog.

Needles to say,if you discover something that must be changed immediately,you don't have to wait till the weekly monitoring session,but you can make the change right the way.You are the one that makes the rules,therefore they may be revised whenever you find it necessary.

The way to monitor is to check every technique that you apply in your empowerment plan,and every list for each technique,and evaluate its contribution to achieve some progress,typically in terms of achievement of one or more goals.

But evaluating goals achievement,is only a part of the monitoring process.You may also reevaluate the relevance of the goals themselves,which may change as progress in some goals is obtained.

You must dedicate some time every week at least,to examine the "big picture",not only the details,to ensure that your plan is really aiming to meet your evolving needs.

Conclusions.

We have proposed to you a way to potency self development ,that is aimed to allow you to deal with the most profound sources of you diminished sexual performance.

We have given to you tools that if properly applied,will introduce deep changes in the way you see yourself,and as an outcome of those changes you should improve your sexual performance,but not only your sexual performance,but also your social interaction with other people,and even the way you behave at work.

The underlying assumption of this method is that everything in life is interconnected,and to improve your sex life,you must do things that affect everything else in your life.

We therefore wish the reader good luck, happiness and control over his own destiny...